MEANTIME GIRL

a current fave song reminded me of this article… ’tis one article i sooooooooo understand…

MEANTIME GIRL

She’s the one you call when you’re bored or sometimes when you and your significant other had a fight because she makes you laugh. She’s the one you talk to when you’re feeling down because she’s willing to lend an ear and be a friend. She’s the one you spend time with between buddies, before you find “The One”. You know the one who hangs around in the meantime.

She’s too laidback, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by. She’s too understanding, too comfortable – she doesn’t make you feel nervous or excited the way a “real woman does. But she’s cool, nice, funny and attractive enough that when you’re lonely or horny and need an intimate female companionship, she’ll do just fine.

You don’t have to wine and dine her because she knows the real you already. She’s not easy, but you know that she cares about you and is attracted to you, and that she’ll give you the intimacy you need. And you know you don’t have to explain yourself or the situation, that she’ll be able to cope with the fact that this isn’t the beginning of a relationship or that there’s any possibility that you have any real romantic feelings for her.

It won’t bother that you would text her sometimes just to say not to text you because you’re with your girlfriend. She’s just sooo cool…why can’t all women be like that? But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don’t because to you, the situation between the two of you isn’t important enough to merit any real thought), you know that it’s really not fair. You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know that despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you don’t think she’s good enough to spend any real time with.

Sure, it’s mostly her fault, because she doesn’t have to give in to your needs — she could play the hard-to-get b***h like the rest of them does, if she really wanted to. But you and she both know that she probably couldn’t pull it off. Maybe she’s not really your type. Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but has left out the ones that men want (or think they want) in a woman.

She’s just too thoughtful. She’ll sometimes buy you things you need; she’ll sometimes buy you or cook midnight snacks for you and personally deliver it in your place. She wants to be special to someone, too. We all do. She has feelings. She has a heart. In fact, she probably has the bigger heart than any woman you’ve ever known because she’s had a front-row seat to The Mess That Is Your Life, and she likes you anyway. She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although you’ve given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be around, she is. She’s just your convenient excuse to fool around.

Anyway, yeah. I’m a Meantime Girl. I don’t know the reason, really, and at this point I don’t even care. I just want to let every guy to know who’s ever had the good fortune to have a Meantime Girl that we may be a lot of fun, but we cry too. A lot. And someday we won’t be around.
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MUST BE NICE

Man talking:Ay yo you…you dat juss flipped on dat cd player..I juss wanna inform yo that
when ya got sumbody good..You hold on to’em

Must Be Nice..
Havin sumone who understands the life you live
Must Be Nice..
Havin someone whose slow to take and quick to give
Must Be Nice..
Havin sumone who sticks around when the rough times get thick,sumone whose smile is
bright enuff to make the projects feel like a mansion

Must Be Nice..
Havin sumone who loves you despite you faults
Must Be Nice..
Havin sumone who talks the talk but also walks the walk
Must Be Nice..
Havin sumone who understands that a thug has feelings too
Sumone who loves you 4sho you just remember to never let’em go

*Chorus*
Cuz even when your hustlin days are gone
She’ll be by your side still holdin on
And even when those 20’s stop spinnin
And all them gold diggin women disappear,she’ll still be here

Must Be Nice..
Havin sumone you can come home to from a long day at work
Must Be Nice..
Havin sumone you don’t have to show,they know exactly where it hurts
Must Be Nice..
Havin sumone who trusts you despite what they’ve heard
Sumone as mighty as a lion but still as gentle as a bluebird
Must Be Nice..
Havin sumone you don’t have to tell you don’t wanna be alone (oh no)
Must Be Nice..
Havin sumone you can grow old with until God calls ya’ll home
Must Be Nice..
Havin sumone who understands that a thug has feelings too
Sumone who loves you 4sho..you never let’em go!

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